Tips & Tricks
Jo Eckler
A Buffet of Ways to Survive Your Pandemic ...

This year's been rough—really rough—for a lot of us. And now we’re heading into a time that's challenging for a lot of people in a good year, and even more so when we are facing all the weirdness and losses of dumpster fire 2020. So how to cope? Look, I’ll be real with you. There's nothing that's going to make things awesome. There's nothing that's going to make things the same as they used to be. What there can be is something to help us muddle through and get us into next year, which hopefully will be a little brighter.

A Buffet of Ways to Survive Your Pandemic Thanksgiving
Tips & Tricks
Jo Eckler
Social Distancing Tips from a Professional ...

So you’ve decided to (or been forced to) do the kind and socially responsible thing and stay at home while COVID-19 rolls up into your area. Thank you for helping slow the spread and flatten that curve so our hospitals and other resources can try to keep up with the demands on them!

But now what? After that glow of doing your part to save humanity wears off, what on earth do you do with these days and/or week ahead? How do you emotionally and mentally get through it?

I’m going to share with you everything I’ve learned from my experiences as 1) someone who works at home; 2) a hard-core introvert; 3) someone living with multiple chronic illnesses; and 4) a licensed clinical psychologist.

Social Distancing Tips from a Professional Introvert Spoonie Shrink
Do the Things
Jo Eckler
What My Mom Taught Me about Being ...

We grow up in all kinds of environments. You might have heard people talk about not knowing what a healthy marriage looks like since their parents didn’t have one. That goes for our dreams as well! If we don’t have a model for what’s possible, our dreams might be tiny. (Not that there’s anything wrong with tiny dreams! They can be really achievable and satisfying.)

Here are three types of models we might have for careers and dreams.

What My Mom Taught Me about Being Multipassionate
Do the Things
Jo Eckler
The Perfection Dragon Will Hoard Your Dreams ...

Dragons hoard, right? There are so many images of them curled up on a pile of gold and gems….which can’t be all that comfortable! So many lumps and hard surfaces and pointy things.

In my own life, as well as with my clients, I find it helps to personify things. In this case, let’s call perfectionism the Perfection Dragon. It hoards, it’s dramatic, and it symbolizes something mythical.

The Perfection Dragon Will Hoard Your Dreams (and Three Reasons Why)
Do the Things
Jo Eckler
Your Mind Will Tell You These Three Lies (and ...

It’s harder than it sounds sometimes to just do stuff…we can have hobbies and business ideas that we adore, that light us up and make us bounce a little in our seat.

And then we don’t do them.

We think about it. We talk about it. We might even make a list of steps or materials that we need.

And we stay on the couch or in the bed or work late at our day job. Because, you know…one day.

Why do we do this to ourselves? Why do we deprive ourselves of what we want and need most? Minds are so tricky! Here are three lies they like to tell us that keep us from doing what we love—and the antidotes.

Your Mind Will Tell You These Three Lies (and Here Are the Antidotes!)

A Buffet of Ways to Survive Your Pandemic Thanksgiving

A Buffet of Ways to Survive Your Pandemic Thanksgiving

This year's been rough—really rough—for a lot of us. And now we’re heading into a time that's challenging for a lot of people in a good year, and even more so when we are facing all the weirdness and losses of dumpster fire 2020. So how to cope? Look, I’ll be real with you. There's nothing that's going to make things awesome. There's nothing that's going to make things the same as they used to be. What there can be is something to help us muddle through and get us into next year, which hopefully will be a little brighter.

Social Distancing Tips from a Professional Introvert Spoonie Shrink

Social Distancing Tips from a Professional Introvert Spoonie Shrink

So you’ve decided to (or been forced to) do the kind and socially responsible thing and stay at home while COVID-19 rolls up into your area. Thank you for helping slow the spread and flatten that curve so our hospitals and other resources can try to keep up with the demands on them!

But now what? After that glow of doing your part to save humanity wears off, what on earth do you do with these days and/or week ahead? How do you emotionally and mentally get through it?

I’m going to share with you everything I’ve learned from my experiences as 1) someone who works at home; 2) a hard-core introvert; 3) someone living with multiple chronic illnesses; and 4) a licensed clinical psychologist.

What My Mom Taught Me about Being Multipassionate

What My Mom Taught Me about Being Multipassionate

We grow up in all kinds of environments. You might have heard people talk about not knowing what a healthy marriage looks like since their parents didn’t have one. That goes for our dreams as well! If we don’t have a model for what’s possible, our dreams might be tiny. (Not that there’s anything wrong with tiny dreams! They can be really achievable and satisfying.)

Here are three types of models we might have for careers and dreams.

The Perfection Dragon Will Hoard Your Dreams (and Three Reasons Why)

The Perfection Dragon Will Hoard Your Dreams (and Three Reasons Why)

Dragons hoard, right? There are so many images of them curled up on a pile of gold and gems….which can’t be all that comfortable! So many lumps and hard surfaces and pointy things.

In my own life, as well as with my clients, I find it helps to personify things. In this case, let’s call perfectionism the Perfection Dragon. It hoards, it’s dramatic, and it symbolizes something mythical.

Your Mind Will Tell You These Three Lies (and Here Are the Antidotes!)

Your Mind Will Tell You These Three Lies (and Here Are the Antidotes!)

It’s harder than it sounds sometimes to just do stuff…we can have hobbies and business ideas that we adore, that light us up and make us bounce a little in our seat.

And then we don’t do them.

We think about it. We talk about it. We might even make a list of steps or materials that we need.

And we stay on the couch or in the bed or work late at our day job. Because, you know…one day.

Why do we do this to ourselves? Why do we deprive ourselves of what we want and need most? Minds are so tricky! Here are three lies they like to tell us that keep us from doing what we love—and the antidotes.

Being Multipassionate: Three Steps to Make the Most of Your Many (Creative) Loves

Being Multipassionate: Three Steps to Make the Most of Your Many (Creative) Loves

Ever been told that you were flaky for being this way? Or that you needed to pick one thing to do for the rest of your life? That stuff comes from an outdated industrial-age way of thinking that saw people as needing to be really specific and specialized. That specialization is great if you’re a worker on an assembly line turning one bolt over and over, but it’s not as relevant to the way that work and careers are changing, or the way that they will be in the future. We have computers and robots and AI to do that bolt-turning now, and what we’ll need more and more are the human soft skills (like empathy), creativity and synthesis of ideas that aren’t easily replicated by AI.

The good news? That’s where multipassionate people like us shine.

That’s not to say that we don’t need help or that we can’t do this better. Here are three ways you can make the most of your magnificent multipassionate spirit.

Want to Do More Cool Stuff? Try a Little Self-Compassion

Want to Do More Cool Stuff? Try a Little Self-Compassion

To create something is a vulnerable act. It’s taking a chance. It might even show the world a piece of ourselves. In order to have that courage and that vulnerability, we need a safe space. We need a container for it where we will be met and seen through soft eyes.

And guess what? We don’t have to count on anyone else to make that space for us. We can do it for ourselves.

That’s where self-compassion comes in.

Three Misguided Beliefs about Self-Compassion that Are Holding You Back

Three Misguided Beliefs about Self-Compassion that Are Holding You Back

It sounds great to say “treat yourself like you would your best friend” and “love yourself!” Sayings like that look awesome on journals and Instagram posts. They never say much about how to do it or what self-compassion would look like, though!

All month I’ve been talking about self-compassion and ways to be kinder to yourself. Why? I think it’s key…key to finding ways to live with chronic illness, key to finding the courage to use our creative gifts, key to being able to connect with others. (If you’ve missed the other posts, check them out here.)

Although self-compassion is really important, we don’t get taught much about it. So we end up with misguided beliefs like these that can get in our way.

Having Trouble Being Nice to Yourself? You Might Be Stuck in One of These Two Mindsets.

Having Trouble Being Nice to Yourself? You Might Be Stuck in One of These Two Mindsets.

Listen, I know it’s hard. Most of us were not taught to be kind to ourselves. If you’ve been reading along this month and trying out some of the ideas in these posts, show yourself a little appreciation! Shifting ingrained patterns is tough. Especially our mental ones.

Mindsets are patterns of thinking and seeing the world. We’re often unaware of them. They just hover in front of us like a permanent Instagram filter, altering our perceptions of what is coming through. That filter can help us out or keep us stuck. Once we’re aware of our mindsets, we can have a little more choice about what actions we want to take and how we want to respond to stuff that happens in our lives.

Trying to Have More Self-Compassion? Watch Out for These 3 Mistakes.

Trying to Have More Self-Compassion? Watch Out for These 3 Mistakes.

Last week we talked about what self-compassion isn’t, busting some of the common myths that can get in the way of true self-care. Knowledge is really nifty! But we also need to get into the nitty-gritty of how to actually implement some of this knowledge in our daily lives. And how to do so even when there’s a severe spoon shortage.

Let’s start this week by looking at three things NOT to do when you’re trying out this whole self-compassion thingy.